Seeing the silliness

RESPONDENT No 23: What about when I find out what happened to end feeling good and I see that it is silly to keep worrying about it yet that doesn’t stop the worrying and I am not back to feeling good?

RICHARD: Two things immediately leap to mind … (1) you value feeling worry (a feeling of anxious concern) over feeling good (a general sense of well-being) … and (2) you have not really seen it is silly to feel bad (a general sense of ill-being). What I would suggest, at this point, is to feel the silliness of feeling bad (in this case feeling anxiety) … then the seeing (as in a realisation) might very well have the desired effect (as in an actualisation) of once more feeling good.

RESPONDENT: a) I am not able to see the silliness of feeling bad …

RICHARD: Do you comprehend that, although the past was actual when it was happening, it is not actual now and that, although the future will be actual when it does happen, it is not actual now … that only this moment is actual?

If so, do you further comprehend that anytime you felt good/will feel good does not mean a thing if you are not feeling good now … that a remembered occasion/an anticipated occasion pales into insignificance if you are feeling bad now?

Furthermore, do you understand that to be living this moment – the only moment you are ever alive – by feeling bad is to be frittering away a vital opportunity to be fully alive … to totally enjoy and appreciate being what you indubitably are (a sensate creature) whilst you are here on this planet?

If so, is it not silly to waste this only moment you are ever alive by feeling bad … when you could be feeling good?

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  • The choice to be happy

    At one point, your intelligence will automatically notice how all of this is silly. Right then, that feeling of sadness (along with the unearthed parts and pieces of “you”) will begin to dissipate away, and it does so without any voluntary control. A (tacit/ intelligent) “choice” (or “decision”) is being made, and before you know it you are back to feeling good.

  • Sidetracks
    Notice (see HAIETMOBA & Affective Awareness) as “I” retreat back to “my” default or sub-optimal way of being … what triggers it off (see Diminishment). Acknowledge the appeal in staying as that; root out (see On-the-job real-time experiencing) the fundamental beliefs (one may come across the “You can’t change human nature” mother-belief). Now effortlessly restore (see also: Rememoration) that autonomous background state, the felicitous “me”, once again by common-sense (aka. Seeing the silliness).
  • Harmlessness

    VINEETO: [..] When I made it my goal to become harmless, in the early days I sometimes felt toothless, castrated and helpless, particularly in situations where I felt I was being ‘wronged’ or I was being treated ‘unjustly’. But once these feeling subsided and I looked at the situation as it really was, I could see how silly it would have been to waste my time passionately fighting other people or riling against the beliefs, morals or ethics of other people in order for ‘me’ to be right or for ‘me’ to feel justly treated. The simple act of becoming aware of having antagonistic and/or indignant feelings inevitably caused me to look at my own ideas and ideals of what I thought and felt was ‘right’ and ‘just’ and ‘fair’– after all the only person I need to change, and can change, is me.

  • Clew

    Oct 09, 2022 (silliness)

  • Basic Resentment
  • Actualism Method
    Seeing the silliness at having felicity/ innocuity be usurped, by either the negative or positive feelings, for whatever reason that might be automatically restores felicity/ innocuity.

    It is really very, very simple (which is possibly why it has never been discovered before this): you felt good previously; you are not feeling good now; something happened to you to end that felicitous/ innocuous feeling; you find out what happened; you see how silly that is (no matter what it was); you are once more feeling good. —Richard